Secrets of a Fix-up Fanatic: How to Meet & Marry Your Match
Now the author of the acclaimed memoirs Lighting Up and Five Men Who Broke My Heart, and a self-proclaimed “diehard romantic optimist,” shares her honest, provocative, and sometimes downright subversive slant on every stage of dating, sex, and domestic relations. She’ll show you how to:
• Fix yourself up first so you’re really ready to be fixed up fabulously
• Recognize raw marriage material and not let a good one get away
• Break through your fears, insecurities, and dating defenses to land true love
• Find love mentors who will set you up and help you close the deal
• Decide which love and marriage myths to lose if you want to win
• Keep fixing up your relationship so it stays warm and loving forever
Susan Shapiro has written the only dating book you'll ever need to consult. Shapiro lets you know that of the people she's fixed up there have been a dozen marriages and produced fifteen offspring so far. The best advice she gives is about fixing yourself up first. She says that instead of asking yourself why your past relationships didn't work out and why that person didn't make you happy, you should instead ask yourself "why weren't you making yourself happy?" and "why weren't you there for you?" She says, "Nobody else can finish you, complete you, make you whole, make your life complete, be your everything,, or make your life worthwhile." You must be whole and complete before you'll be able to bond with someone else.
Shapiro gives examples from her friends on why relationships sour. She also has a "Ready-for-romance test" where she asks questions about how content you are with how your life currently is to see if you really are ready for a relationship.
She has great tips on how to go about meeting people (bars=bad, being fixed up by someone you went to school with=good) and how inviting a different crowd than you normally hang out with to your next party could help you meet someone. She evens includes different criteria for turning down a second date,, having a second date as well as 'dumb criteria" for turning down a second date. There are also the "12 Commandments of Blind Dating" including do not trash yourself or your exes.
This is an excellent book for anyone looking for the right relationship and for anyone who is wondering why their relationships never seem to work out. This book helps you work out what you need to do to be a happier person, which in turns helps you to make the right choices in dating and bring the right person into your life. A fun and informative read!