Time to Tell 'Em Off! A Pocket Guide to Overcoming Peer Ridicule

Time to Tell 'Em Off! A Pocket Guide to Overcoming Peer Ridicule
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March 01, 2002
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097254240X
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Listed as a favorite self-help book for children and teens by Lifestyles, a publication by Estevan Lifestyles Publications. Libraries' and bookstores' resources on bullying are often limited to picture books and parenting books. This book is for those who deal with the worst bullying: preteens and teens. Time to Tell 'Em Off! offers advice to ridiculed/bullied kids and teens, based on the author's experience as a target. The author sympathizes with ridiculed young people, explains why certain people are harassed, and provides coping and self-defense strategies. The problem of school bullying needs to be tackled from all angles. One angle is for teachers to put a halt to bullying as soon as they witness it. Another is to change the mind-set of the student majority so that bullies feel the weight of the majority's disapproval instead of feeling encouraged to bully because the majority either ignores the bullying or finds it entertaining. Another angle is to empower the targets of bullying by giving them books like this one. Just as there are certain actions that school administrators can take, there are certain actions that the targets can take. This book gives them tools that, based on the author's personal experience, will help them address the problem as much as it is within their power to do so.

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Reader reviewed by Laura Ramirez, Editor Family Matters! ezine

"Time to Tell 'Em Off!" offers effective strategies for coping
with schoolyard bullies. In addition to revealing how she was teased and
bullied as a child, Deanna Miller is living proof that a bullied child
can grow into an attractive and confident adult.


Because children will identify with Miller's story, they'll be more receptive
to her advice on how to develop self-esteem, understand "bully psychology,"
and let off steam after a bully's verbal or physical attack. Ultimately,
what Miller offers is a toolset that will help kids confront their attackers
and stop the bully in his tracks.


Let's face it: we've all been bullied at some time in our lives. Most
children and parents will identify with this book. Even those who throw
their weight around will gain perspective into their behavior and compassion
for the targets of their abuse.


"Time to Tell 'Em Off!" is available as an e-book and is a must-have
addition to your family library. I wish that I'd read a book like this
when I was growing up. It would have helped me understand how bullies
pick their targets and what I could have done to ward off their attacks.


While I can't turn the clock back for myself, I can help my children
deal with the inevitable before they're even faced with it. Although "Time
to Tell 'Em Off!" was written with fifth graders through twelfth graders
in mind, I think that younger children can benefit from reading some portions
of the book. Don't forget: bullying starts early. Teach your child how
to deal with bullies before the bullying starts.


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Reader reviewed by Jonathan David Masters

BRAVO!


Ms. Miller has written a small pocket manual that every parent and student
should own. This FEATURED book from the Booklocker On Line Book Store
deals in a step-by-step, common-sense approach with one of the most vexing
and hazardous problems faced by kids in today's schools, "the school bully."


Written primarily for the child who is being bullied, the book, if read
by parents, can help them recognize warning signs and aid their children
in developing a viable plan when and if they face this situation. While
bullying is as old as education itself, because of the times we live in,
this age of school shootings and gangs, there has never been a greater
need for a handbook such as this. As Ms. Miller points out, these days,
it isn't the bully doing the shooting but the kids who have been picked
on. No parent wants this to be their child's last option, nor should it
ever come to that.


Reading Ms. Miller's little prize took me back many years to my own school
days and then those of my children. It wasn't until I helped my boys build
their confidence in themselves and their ability to defend themselves
that the bullying stopped. Like Ms. Miller, I never confronted my own
tormentors, a fact that diminishes me to this day. How I wished that there
had been such a guidebook then. What a tremendous encouragement and hope
for parents and young people of every school age.


So I say again BRAVO! Ms. Miller, your little book is dynamite. Thank
you for writing it. And to you parents out there or you young people who
are being bullied, what are you waiting for? For the price of an Extra
Value Meal, you can have a working solution at your fingertips. I highly
recommend this book.

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Reader reviewed by Penny Morang Richards, Eagle-Tribune Writer

"Helping kids cope with bullies, peer pressure"


Deanna Miller pitches herself as a graduate of the school of hard knocks.


Years of peer ridicule made her see another side to the bullying attacks.
She has taken those sad years and turned her hurt into a new book, a guide
for teens who are the objects of bullying and ridicule.


"Time to Tell 'Em Off!" helps teens take a look at themselves and learn
to like what they see, instead of hearing and believing hurtful words
from others.


Ms. Miller developed the theory bullies pick on others because of their
own shortcomings and faults. Bullies are likely insecure themselves and
can only feel better about themselves at the expense of someone else.


"Seeing someone else get upset and lose confidence is exhilarating for
them, an emotional high," Ms. Miller writes.


She says keeping hurt feelings trapped inside is a dangerous side effect
of being bullied. If young people listen often enough to hurtful words,
the words begin to make sense, and teens can easily slide into a pattern
of thinking they are not worth being liked or loved. Sadness that becomes
infected is depression, she said. Anger that becomes infected turns to
rage.


Ms. Miller discusses reasons why kids make fun of other kids, and offers
advice on avoiding depression and stopping the ridicule, and learning
to defend one's self.


Ms. Miller's goal is to help teens find ways to manage personal issues,
not lean on other people to fight their battles for them. She urges her
readers to find ways to fight back with words, not with fists.


The guide suggests finding ways to find inner peace and strength, including
turning to prayer, the Bible, and God.


"Do whatever makes you feel good about yourself, but choose activities
that stimulate personal growth, not stunt it," she writes.


She also encourages turning to professionals like psychologists if necessary.


"There is no shame in seeking help, but there is shame in letting (infected
anger) beat you when you could have taken steps to heal it," she says.


At 39 pages, the book can be printed out and slipped to a notebook. There,
tucked in a backpack, it can be easily and confidentially reviewed, even
during the course of a school day when a teen might need a friendly inner-voice
and a boost of confidence.

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Reader reviewed by Kelly Walsh, a 12-Year-Old Reviewer at Scribes World Reviews

This book was an interesting guidebook. It is a book about how to deal
with peer pressure and how to stop people from picking on you and making
fun of you. It isn't like a normal peer pressure kind of book. It gives
advice but you have choices, and it also gives examples of things people
normally do and how that helps you. The author also put in some of her
own experiences of when she was a kid.


One thing I also thought that was cool was that she gave examples of
things people might say to you and she gave funny comebacks to them-like
if someone called you a skinny freak you could say back, "Thanks, Fatso,"
or if someone called you four-eyes you could say they were protective
lenses against them. The author believed you shouldn't be mean without
a reason, but if someone was being mean to you, you had the right to protect
yourself.


I think this book could help a lot of people who are getting picked
on, and I suggest it to anyone who wants to read it because it can help
you even if you think you are completely under control. No one is perfect
and maybe you could help someone who needs help.

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Reader reviewed by The Editors of Swerve Magazine

It's a sad fact that kids and teens can be cruel people, some more than
others. In Deanna Miller's ebook (available only on the Internet), she
presents herself as one of the many walking wounded from the halls of
high schools. Through her own experience, she shares wisdom and advice
from the point of view of one who's definitely been there and lived through
it. The "Pocket Guide" is just that, about 40 pages on your computer,
but contains some great advice concerning bullies. The message is repeated
again and again: if you are bullied, there is nothing wrong with you.
There is something wrong with them. A good read for any survivor of school
bullying, but definitely ideal for those currently bearing the burden
of being teased, "Time to Tell 'Em Off!" is an important read.

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